All too often professionals in hospice find themselves caught up in a web of internal and behavioral expectations with regard to care giving. Pulled from numerous influences (family, significant others, accumulated experiences, culture, religion, just to name a few) the professional helper can easily and repeatedly find it difficult to see straight in order to provide healthy, balanced services in the field. Given the magnitude of their role in hospice, health care providers are especially prone to such mental fogginess. Thus it is imperative for the professional to retrace his or her developmental steps in order to gain a clear understanding on the genesis of care giving that he or she is now applying in the field. Once this knowledge is reached, the professional helper can reduce the all too common care giving blunders committed in the name of care.